I was shocked to find that the title of this novel truly refers to the silly game we all play with toddlers! Like Ferber’s other books, Giant, or Cimarron, I thought the title must have some greater meaning. But it is, in fact, derived from the So Big game, and SoBig becomes the nickname of one of the main characters, Dirk DeJong.
Dirk’s mother, Selina Peake DeJong is So Big’s main character and the emotional center of the novel. We meet her as a girl, living with her raconteur father after the death of her mother. She loves her life and happily endures her hardships when her father’s gambling leaves the pair in poverty. On the other hand, she revels in the good life of restaurants and hotels and the theatre, even as a young girl, when her father is flush with his winnings. After her father’s death, and against her best friend Julie’s wishes, Selina, thinking it a temporary stop in a lifelong adventure, becomes a schoolteacher.
Heading out to the Dutch ‘High Prairie’ of Illinois, she meets and lives with the Pool family – honest, kind, hard-working truck farmers, who expect little from their children but their labor. Selina takes the Pool’s sensitive, artistic son, Roelf, under her wing and encourages him to follow his muse and his heart. It is as a result of Selina’s attention and encouragement that Roelf heads to Paris and becomes a famous and acclaimed sculptor. Roelf may have also run to Paris to quell his unrequited and impossible crush on Selina.
Selina meets and falls in love with a local farmer, Purvis DeJong. They marry and Selina moves from the Pool’s to the DeJong farm - one of the poorer in the district, though not for lack of Purvis’ honest efforts. While Purvis is good and kind and hard-working, luck rarely finds him, and because he is unwilling to take risks with time or capital to improve the farm, he and Selina live a hand-to-mouth existence, albeit a reasonably happy one. Purvis and Selina have a son, Dirk, to whom Selina is quite devoted. She calls him, and continues to call him, SoBig through much of his life, much to his chagrin as he gets older.
Selina is bound to do all she can to give Dirk every advantage which she did not have. After Purvis dies of Pneumonia from working the cold, wet, lower acreage on their farm, Selina begins to implement the improvements that she had suggested, and which had been rejected by Purvis as too risky or too time-consuming. The disheartening scene of Selina and Dirk taking their first wagonload of produce to market in Chicago is heart-wrenching. Selina is mistreated because she is a woman doing a man’s work, and as a result her load of precious vegetables is nearly wasted. Through sheer strength of will, she manages to sell much of her load door to door and narrowly avoids disaster.
In doing so, she runs into her friend Julie, now an extremely wealthy socialite. Julie’s father makes a loan to Selina and through her backbreaking work, and her brains, she makes her small farm prosper, even getting her DeJong asparagus on the menu at some of Chicago’s finest restaurants. Through all this time Selina encourages Dirk to see the beauty in life and pursue the artistic path as an architect. Although he tries architecture, Dirk is better suited to making money as a bond salesman. Selina remains proud of SoBig and loves him dearly, but can’t help feeling disappointed that he has little appreciation for life’s great beauty.
When Dirk falls in love with the commercial artist, Dallas, this theme is repeated. Dirk’s advances ”>are thwarted because Dallas feels that he has too little appreciation for the beauty in life. When the now-famous artist, Roelf Pool, comes to Chicago for a visit, and Dirk sees the spark between he and Dallas, as well as Selina’s obvious, maternal love for Roelf, Dirk questions his life and his choices. Ferber’s clear message is to live life for love and beauty and that those choices will truly make us So Big.
Ferber’s novel packed two great surprises for me – the strong feminist overtones, long before feminism came into fashion, and the surprising emotion I felt at the reunion of Roelf and Selina. I found myself more than a little choked up. It is the rare book that has evoked that response from me. But the purity of Selina’s motives toward Roelf, and the depth of their feeling for each other, is quite touching. Selina is a true inspiration, even in a world where we use that term in reference to self-serving, self-help gurus. Selina is conrasted quite strongly against the other, richer woman in the book, who are petty and concerned only with themselves, their money and their social standing.
Selina is the epitome of intelligence, grace, strength, and inner beauty and one of the most finely honed characters I have encountered in my Pulitzer travels. So Big is rarely read and little appreciated today, yet I would encourage anyone interested in integrity, strength of character or just plain grit, to search out and read this book. It may bring you close to tears as well, and will surely leave you feeling so much bigger than before you read it.
RogerRater Score: (1 – 5) 4.8
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